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Thursday, April 14, 2011

Three is Frustrating

Don’t get me wrong; three is a fun and fascinating age (though I think all of their ages have been so very special in their own ways.) I suddenly have a little daughter instead of just a toddler.
But three is frustrating.

She is frustrated. One day she can zip her coat on the first try, and the next she can’t do it after thirty times, and there is no way she’s letting anyone help her.

I am frustrated. I want to help. I want to let her figure it out. I want to encourage. I want to be only ten minutes late instead of thirty-five.

She is amazing. She “reads” her books to herself when I am reading to Dylan, getting so many of the words correct, not from sight but from memory, after hearing them only once or twice.

She is frustrated. Dylan refuses to sit through anything much longer than Goodnight Moon.

I am grasping at straws. I’ve taken to giving dramatic readings of children’s stories, in the hopes that acting out The Cat in the Hat will engage both of them instead of just Abbey.

She is enthralled. She gets to pick her own shoes, and there are so many options. Sparkly, pink, purple, ties, velcro? (Pink Converse All Stars were the casual winners, bright pink patent leather to go with the Easter dress!)

She is frustrated. Mommy doesn’t want to buy the bright pink, plastic flip flops with the gigantic flower (for me, not her.)

Dylan is practically climbing out of his stroller. Who knew there were so many shoes in the world, and why does my sister need to see all of them?

If only they sold patience next to this season’s wedge heels. I’d buy some for all of us.


This post is in response to the Mama Kat's Writing Workshop prompt: What I lack . . .Because what I lack is the patience of Job. I’m working on it, though!

this was after about a million unsuccessful zippering attempts
she's half laughing and half mad, not crying
I'm not mean enough to find the camera when she's crying

Mama’s Losin’ It

26 comments:

  1. Oh I remember this time well! It should be the Terrible Threes instead of the Terrible Twos I think. Good luck finding that patience ... and if you do, I need some too!

    Visiting from Mama Kats.

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  2. I remember this time.... and am working towards it again!

    It gets better and then worse... better... worse... as they get older!

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  3. I absolutely believe it! Even now, some days I think Abbey is the easy one & some days I think it's Dylan :)

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  4. Thanks for stopping by :) Two was filled with tantrums, but they were easier to deal with because she wasn't so fiercely, stubbornly independent!

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  5. Mine are 9,6, and 4. These days are not so far removed from the days of the so called Terrible Twos. What no one ever tells you is it sometimes starts at 1 and by 3 they have it down to an art form. We won't discuss the Fabulous 4s or by the time we get the hang of this it's the dreaded preteen (I think its now tweens?) and teen years. With 2 girls, I'm so not ready for it, yet. =)

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  6. Being on the cusp of that kind of independence is definitely a challenge for kids.

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  7. 3 is hard!!! I was so happy when my daughter turned 4! I just have to make it through one more set of the 3's. Its way harder than 2's!

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  8. Yes, no one talks about three, but three is rough. Rougher than two, but easier than four.
    And shoes, yes, there are too many shoes and why (WHY?) I ask myself does my daughter have more shoes than I do...then I remember, hers cost about $3 a pair at the consignment shop.

    Keep up the good work, mama!

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  9. Oh mama. I feel your pain. 3 is a hard age because the kids are starting to get their independence but they are too young to do things there self and they don't understand reasoning. If I had any patience I would send it to you.

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  10. seriously I am getting shirts made up for next Jan for us that the 4 of us made it to 4....because I am ready to lose my shi** everytime they do. Things that are not a problem today are monumental tomorrow. I can't keep up LOL...I know exactly how u feel...times 2.
    Hugs!!!!

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  11. As the mama of an almost three year old, I can definitely relate!

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  12. It's a good thing they are funny and cute, right?

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  13. I can't imagine times two. You deserve more than shirts, like possibly a free vacation and fifty-two pedicures.

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  14. I'm excited about the independence, too, don't get me wrong, but oh the tears!

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  15. Easier than four?! Oh no :( I'm in trouble, LOL.

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  16. It makes me feel better knowing that it's everyone and not just me!

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  17. I try to remember that when she is having one of her more frustrating (for me) moments. As hard as it is for me, at least I understand what's going on. It is probably just confusing for her :(

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  18. Two tween/teen girls would be scary; good luck Mama :)

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  19. Oh, she's adorable! I'm sorry....mine are just so far past the tender age of 3, which I so clearly remember. I thought 3 was harder than 2! They are so capable, but then not.

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  20. But you made it through it, and (hopefully) we will, too. Right?

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  21. Oh my goodness, my oldest child was the same way. Very determined. My oldest is now 16, but I've got a 2 year old who's easing her way into Very Determinedville soon. I'm so not ready!
    Thanks for stopping by today. Following you now via GFC.

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  22. Thank you for stopping by, too! Even with the experience of going through Determinedville before, I'm sure you're not looking forward to some parts of the ride! Good luck :)

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  23. wow, do you live in my house? ;) my days with an almost-three-year-old are JUST like this. I thought I was a genius for escaping Terrible Two...but it looks like she was just saving it all up for 3! She has a little brother, too, who is too little to fully grasp what an attention-stealer she is, but someday I imagine he'll be trying to escape his stroller in the shoe department, too. great post, and if you learn the secret to finding the patience you lack...fill me in, I'm desperate for some too!

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  24. I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one. Because some days, I am positive everyone must have some secret mommy manual except for me! Sending patient vibes your way :)

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  25. Lol Angie Lol
    I don't know what I love more the blog entry or the picture captions.

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  26. She is such a trip! Jessica was showing her pictures of Katelyn this weekend, and now Abbey's been talking about her :)

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